Dating my bestfriends sister

So you have fallen in love with your best friend, and you know for a fact that your best friend loves you, too.

Needless to say her brother wasn’t too thrilled about it.

When I asked her why her brother was upset, she said her brother’s explanation was simply, “That’s just not what black people do.” I could see if he was upset because she kept a secret from him or because maybe he thought his friend wasn’t good enough for his baby sister, but to make it a cultural thing seemed strange to me.

Queers don't tend to expect our dates to come into our lives completely free of prior complication.

Shutterstock Finding a great guy to date nowadays seems impossible for some women, so when she finds what seems like the perfect guy, she should go for it, right?

Then again, I had known many white people who had no problem dating their best friend’s brother, but no black folks. I don’t have any brothers, so I can’t say how I’d feel if my bestie wanted to date my sibling.

Keep your friendship intact by following these guidelines to dating your friend's sister.

Here are ten tips to avoid issues when you’re dating your friend’s sister:1.

Don’t take sides: If there’s a disagreement between your friend and his sister, do not take sides.

It's difficult to meet people you're romantically interested in beyond an already-defined circle, and outside of your city's queer scene, most people you run into are likely to be straight.

Even if you meet someone to whom you think you have no previous connection, a 10-minute conversation almost always reveals that she went to high school with your college roommate, used to be on a volleyball team with that girl from your book club, and had a six-month stand with your favorite barista.

Age does not matter so you could be 13 or 30 and all of these rules will apply!

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